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Yesterday's question on budgeting told some home truths but seems to have been removed by the questioner because he didn't like what was written.
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159Hi Mike.
I would not reply at all if I felt I could not tell it as I see it.
From memory the thrust of the answers were that unless you have a balanced budget then you cant get started. To do that either income needs to increase and/or expenditure needs to decrease. If someone doesn't like that....tough, it will be forced upon them soon enough by the system.
I am however not happy that an IP can take down a post just because they don't like the answers. Why should the responders not get a vote?
An answer sticking within the exact bounds of the question could be VERY misleading and do much harm if it was relied upon.
Joe
Posted on 28 January 2011 |
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23I think home truths, if justified, should be posted, of course there are ways to express them and I have in the past raised issue with certain people about the tone of their answers which in my opinion discourage use of the site.
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134Answering qs here is voluntary and provided the answers are (in this site's words) "polite and on-topic" some home truths shouldn't be a problem.
Sometimes people don't ask the right question of course - eg "Should I extend my £300k mortgage by £50,000k to buy the racehorse, or put it on my credit card?"
Answer...
Whoa!
Posted on 28 January 2011 |
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24I think it's important that you guys keep answering questions the way you do. It gives the questioner a broader look at a topic they are curious about and you often hightlight points they would have otherwise not considered. Also you are addressing the wider audience, not just the questioner. You may be answering other peoples questions without them having to post.
I check in on Q&A almost every day and I'm learning a fantasic amount from your detailed answers. If people cannot accept home truths then they are not serious about getting out of debt, which is the route of their problem in the first place. Leave them be. Post you answers as normal and even if the questioner is not interested you may have given another reader that light bulb moment.
Posted on 28 January 2011 | Love 5 loves
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212I think the fact that someone removes the question to hide the responses they don't like on an anonymous website says an awful lot about their mental state and ability to resolve their problems.
They aren't asking the right questions.
The 3 year itch guy needed to be asking "why am I still doing this after 3 years" and sometime later he needs to ask "why did it take me three years to notice I was doing that and what can I change to stop it happening again".
Hopefully somewhere inbetween he can come up with some questions to identify and answers to resolve the problems he had rather than hiding them from himself or his partner.
Truth is reality .. it does hurt ... feel the pain ... you'll be so much better for it afterwards.
I once had a friend respond to my gay youth self pitying once ... she blatted me between the eyes with the truth ... I was my problem ... it hurt me like hell ... I was no longer able to be the victim ... I now hate seeing people play the victim to avoid dealing with self problems ... I thank her from the bottom of my heart for pointing it out to me and I remember her with extreme fondness ... she and that talk changed my life ... I only hope I can do the same for someone else I see being the victim and needing someone else to solve their victimisation.
Posted on 29 January 2011 | Love 2 loves
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824It is a great shame that his partner is supporting him regardless and not telling him the home truths that we have.
Or maybe she has and he didn't like hearing it from someone else as well.
Any way he has a problem and needs to change his attitude. If something doesn't work you fix it or change it.
We weren't necessarily saything that he should abandon his career. But he needs to do something else in between. Actors in particular do all sorts of things when they are 'resting' between jobs.
I hope he reads this thread. He can't remove this one.
Mike
Posted on 29 January 2011 | Love 3 loves
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7I want honest straightforward answers to questions i post.
It is up to the individual to decide the next step.
Keep up the good work.
Posted on 31 January 2011 | Love 0 loves
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21Mike, answering a question directly is of course important, however if you feel it is appropriate to add additional information I say go for it! Sometimes people are indeed asking the wrong question. You and the rest of this community are doing a stellar job of helping fellow viewers, you need not worry :)
Ps, I can confirm any "loves" (recommends) you received for your answers to the deleted question are still counted!
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