Five things to do before you get married

Donna Ferguson
by Lovemoney Staff Donna Ferguson on 18 February 2009  |  Comments 14 comments

Follow these five steps before you get married to avoid financial disaster.

If your beloved got down on bended knee and popped the question last Saturday, you're not alone. Thousands of people get engaged on Valentine's Day every year - but strangely, few appear to discuss the huge impact their impending nuptials will have on their finances.

No doubt, a prolonged exchange about your bank balance - never mind your new insurance and protection needs - seems a little, well, unromantic. 

But let us not to the marriage of true minds admit there are such impediments. Before the dust settles on those dozen red roses and heart-holding teddy bears, it's time to get into bed with your fiance's finances.

Because if you're not prepared, what starts off as the happiest journey of your life could easily turn into a massive financial disaster. Take these five steps now to avoid the worst later!

1. When life means life

You're about to swear to love, honour, cherish and protect your beloved for the rest of your life. But what if the rest of your life doesn't quite pan out the way you planned?

It doesn't involve loving declarations or public oaths, but ensuring the person you love is adequately provided for, whatever happens to you, is one of the most romantic acts you can commit, in my opinion. And that means insurance.

Life insurance is the obvious candidate - but it's also worth considering critical illness cover and income protection. Read A Fool's Guide To Life Insurance and Why It's Vital To Protect Your Income for more on these different types of cover.

2. Pension partners

So, you've been carefully squirrelling away the pennies into a pension pot. But have you ever considered what would happen to that money if you died before reaching retirement?

OK, it's a morbid thought - but one thing's for sure: it will be too late to deal with it once you're dead. So deal with it today: write to your pension provider and ask for your death benefits to be signed over to your fiance. The same goes for any death-in-service benefit you get from your employer.

For similar reasons, you may also wish to make a will - although the good news is, once you're married, your spouse will automatically gain limited inheritance rights over your estate. Read this article for more info.

3. The ring on your finger...

It may already be worth more to you than words can wield the matter, dearer than eyesight, space or liberty. But if you don't insure your rings, you're effectively valuing them at...diddly squat. 

So ask your home insurance policy provider whether your rings would be covered for accident, loss and theft within the home. You may find you have to declare each ring separately on your policy, if it's worth over £1,500. This could push up your premiums with some insurers, so shop around the next time you come to renew to ensure you're getting the best deal.

Unless you are planning only to wear your rings inside the home - which would be a little odd - you'll need further insurance to protect the rings outside the home. The good news is, personal possessions cover typically includes wedding and engagement rings, so if you already have this insurance as part of your home insurance policy, you shouldn't need to take out any extra cover. Double-check to make sure.

Top tip: Personal possessions cover should prove far better value than any insurance offered by a ring retailer, because you will not only be protecting your rings, but all the other possessions you regularly carry with you, such as your mobile phone and the cash in your purse or wallet.

4. 'Til debt do us part 

According to weddingsday.co.uk, the cost of a typical wedding in the UK nowadays is a staggering £18,500. (It gives a terrifying breakdown of the average costs here.)

How are you going to pay for this? Whether you've got the cash in hand or not, the best way to pay for anything that costs more than £100 is by credit card. This ensures you have the protection of Section 75 of the Consumer Credit Act.

?Under this Act, if the goods or services you buy are misdescribed or fail to live up to expectations -- or if the seller goes bankrupt before you receive what you bought -- then you'll have the right to full compensation from your credit card issuer.

And once you're paying by credit card, it makes sense to be savvy about which type you use. For example, you could use a cashback card that will reward you for each £1 you spend. But this is only a good option if you can afford to pay off the bill in full each month, or the interest you pay on your debt will far outweigh the benefits of the cashback. 

So if you're unable to pay for everything upfront, use a card that charges 0% interest on purchases instead. That way, your debt won't spiral out of control - one of the biggest causes of divorce.

5. Gifts, gifts, gifts!

When you're spending thousands of pounds, it's only fair that you should expect some expensive gifts in return, right?

Again, this will increase your need for cover. Luckily, you may not have to pay for this. Some home contents insurance providers, such as Norwich Union Direct and Asda, automatically increase your cover by 10% for a month before and after a wedding. Other insurers, such as Halifax, offer unlimited cover as standard. Check your policy to be on the safe side.

So that's it - the five steps to marital bliss. Well, from a financial perspective, anyway!

More: Six Steps To Avoid Financial Heartbreak

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Comments (14)

  • firstlight40
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    firstlight40 said

    A lot more important than all of these is to ensure that you are financially compatible with your partner. Financial issues are probably the largest single main reason for divorce / marital breakdown. Look at the dealing with debt forum if you don't believe me.

    What does your future partner think of debt, what financial hopes / dreams do they have, how do they spend money? Are you a saver or a spender, and what are they like?

    A calm discussion of all of these matters is just as important as all of the others items.

    And.. it's not necessary to spend 18K on a wedding - especially if you can't afford it.

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  • NK104
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    NK104 said

    Of course they're not valid in this country....but you forgot the pre-nup.

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  • luke1983
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    luke1983 said

    As firstlight40 says, there are some far more fundamental financials to consider than the cost of the wedding and extra insurance.

    I've considered proposing to my girlfriend in the next few years and have taken note of the comments on pensions and life insurance.

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  • AJHome
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    AJHome said

    Always amuses me that the typical costs for a wedding are always reported by organisations who have a vested interest in people spending as much as possible i.e. magazines and websites supported by companies advertising wedding services. They wouldn't get very far admitting that you could have an excellent wedding by spending a fraction of the cited costs.

    Totally agree with firstlight40 about checking financial compatibility.

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  • formr
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    formr said

    Don't make a will until after you're married though because getting married invalidates existing wills automatically.

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  • Hudges
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    Hudges said

    I heard a report that the same venue charged 1/2 the price for a birthday party then it did for a wedding. Check prices. Vendors assume that everything has to be so special that they charge more.

    Also do as much as you can yourself. When we married 15 months ago, we made our own invitations and table decorations; used seasonal flowers; used family cars rather than hired; had a discount on the superb venue for late booking; my wife found an Alexander Stewart dress at 75% off; and we found a photographer on the net who charged for his time and gave us royalty free photos.

    We planned what we could afford and wanted to spend and came in 60p under our £10k budget, and then had our £450 cash-back.

    And it was a fantastic day!

    Now if I had only remembered how to dance......

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  • formr
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    formr said

    Mentioning the 18K figure is a classic example of anchoring, a sales technique whereby you fix a figure in peoples minds (even a completely unrelated number!) and that makes them base future discussion of costs on that figure.

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  • AleisterCrowley
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    AleisterCrowley said

    Five Things To Do Before You Get Married

    1: Change your mind

    3:

    4:

    5:

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  • Enzyme100
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    Enzyme100 said

    £18,000 WHY! the web link posted was so rubbish, ofcourse they are going to say it costs £18,000, they are in the bussiness to sell.

    I am sure a real fool would have found a better link?

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  • brightncheerful
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    brightncheerful said

    1. Ask her/him whether they would still want to marry you if you were broke or bankrupt. If that should happen then you'll know who your friends are!.

    2. Open a joint bank account to see how you both get sharing the household income. Don't put all your money into it until you feel really okay about sharing. If not ten always maintain separate accounts.

    3. Friends in New Zealand had all their wedding presents stolen during the afternoon when they, the friends, were at the church getting married. Make sure your wedding presents are somewhere safe and being looked after when you're away from your home.

    4. Ensure you get on with your prospective in-laws and his/her relations; always be nice to them: you never know how much they'll leave you one day, or give you as a wedding present.

    5. Whether or not you each have some already, buy some new cutlery together as soon as possible to start with.

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  • AleisterCrowley
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    AleisterCrowley said

    1: Don't do it. Run! Run ! Run to the hills !

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  • Cliff D'Arcy
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    Cliff D'Arcy said

    Should we expect to hear wedding bells chez Werbner, Donna, given this article? ;0)))

    Cliff

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  • nferguson79
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    nferguson79 said

    Should we expect to hear wedding bells chez Werbner, Donna, given this article? ;0)))

    Are you offering to pay for the wedding Cliff?

    Neil

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  • Arthurian
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    Arthurian said

    Although I have been married over 40 years many YOUNGER Friends / Colleagues have been FAR Less Fortunate.

    Anaylzing their main problems these are VERY OFTEN Financial.

    So:

    Buy your house as 'Tenants In Common' [Makes it 50% each if you split]

    If on similar incomes setup a Joint Account & pay in EQUAL monthly amounts to cover House, Utilities & Food, Retain 'Finacial 'Independance' in other areas [At least until you 'Grow Together' in your financial ways!!

    'Tenants in Common' on House Deeds Costs NO MORE at the Outset & can Facilitate avoidance of Inheritance Tax!!

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